25 Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

The hubby and I have been married for 15 years, together for 17.  He still makes my heart race.  He is my best friend, my fiercest advocate and my rock, soft enough to lay my head on, tough enough to stay with me for all these years. Our marriage has been full of ups and downs, peaks and valleys. A strong commitment and God at the center is what has brought us together through the storms.  Each obstacle we have faced, whether it was parenting a special needs child, adoption or my chronic illness, has brought us closer together. I've been with this man for half my life.  And sometimes the busyness of life, the fatigue of motherhood, the temptation to give up when things got tough-- those circumstances have tested our love and threatened our spark.  On this week of Valentine's Day, I … [Read more...]

Our Love Story {not quite what you would expect}

Happy Valentine's Day!  Whether you are married or single, I think this commercial holiday can be a good excuse to thank God for the people He has placed in your life to love- be it friends, children, a spouse and those He has called you to serve.  Please know that I love and pray for each of you that take time to come this little space on the internet. I thought it would be fun to participate in this little link-up going around the web about love stories.  Mike and I have a backwards love story that has been redeemed by God and brought together for His purposes in wonderful ways (Romans 8:28).  I would love to hear your story in the comments.  And, if you are waiting on God to bring you the person He has designed for you to spend life with, please let me know in the comments so that I … [Read more...]

Marriage as a testimony

{an edited post from the archives as I spend Christmas break with my family} "I am going to take the boys and pick up Sweet Pea.  See you when you get home.  Drive careful". His lips brushed my forehead and he headed out of the lodge with our three sons in tow.  All four of them had rosy cheeks from the windy night of snow tubing we had just enjoyed. I had a van full of teen moms to chauffeur home so I waved at my hubby and smiled at my boys as they piled into our car. "How long have you been married?" she asked. "You make it look so easy." The first part of the comment was not hard to answer.  I've been married since I was eighteen. But, easy? Hardly. I prayed a silent prayer before I answered her question and addressed the questioning in her eyes. "Well, we have been  married … [Read more...]

Focus on the Good

I have friends going through difficult times.  Some friends are single and healing from past hurts.  Some are dealing with the aftermath of divorce.  Some are struggling to stay married. I pray for marriage everyday.  My marriage, my children's future spouses, my friends marriages and marriage in general.  God designed this special union to illustrate the way Christ feels about the Church.  What could be more special than that? While I pray for marriage everyday, I am not good at being married everyday. Sometimes, when you have been married as long as we have {will be 15 years in July}, you tend to get irritated by the little things that you thought were adorable when you first met. For instance, I can not stand the way my husband chews.  Simply can NOT take it.  And, I don't like food … [Read more...]

More on covenant and tackling ‘the talk’

Last month, we dipped our toes in the waters of covenant, a crucial theological concept and one that is vital when teaching our boys about marriage and sex. This month, I wanted to continue that conversation in a more practical way.  Let’s talk about how to teach our boys about the concept of covenant from a young age so that when it comes time to explain the marriage covenant and God’s views on sexuality, the concept is already on their hearts and minds. The word for covenant translates to “a binding agreement”, according to dictionary.com.  If you look up the origin of the word, you could add serious or solemn to that definition to fully understand the Biblical translation. What are some situations where we could illustrate this principal to our kids in everyday life? To read … [Read more...]

Covenant and the sex talk

Today’s culture and society has lost sight of the seriousness of the covenant of marriage and the role of sex. Sex is symbolic of a covenant between a married man and his wife. A covenant that we will be held accountable to one day. In a culture where sex is viewed casually and more than half of marriages end in divorce, we as moms need to teach our boys about covenant.... You can read the rest of this post at The M.O.B Society, where I write the monthly column, Tackling "the talk". … [Read more...]

Playing catch up

Will someone remind me never to sign up for a 30 day meme again?  It makes me feel completely inadequate when I miss a day and have to play catch-up.  Maybe it's good for the recovering perfectionist in me. Day 9: Something that makes my life easier There are many things but I want to share a website with y'all that has been a life saver for me and my family these last few months.  It is called Takethemameal.com.  While I have been recuperating from all these surgeries, friends and church members could sign up to bring us a meal.  The site would send me an email to let me know who to expect and what they were bringing. It was a true God send! {and I appreciate each and every person that took the time to cook for our family more than they will ever know} Day 10: A photo of then and … [Read more...]

Yes! This!

"Let me tell you something, Church. The term marriage has been tainted, scarred, and made a mockery of by the adulteress who willingly accepts a man from a troubled marriage. Marriage has been burnt alive by porn addiction and selfish husbands. Marriage has been destroyed by unforgiving wives and a blatant unwillingness by both parties to lay down their lives. Marriage has not been ruined by the gay community. And if we truly, not self righteously but truly, want to return marriage to its original sanctity, the fight, the cleansing and purifying, has to begin within the church." Please go read this post in it's entirety at Kingdom Twindom.  Thank you for your willingness to say the hard things, Sarah! And, another post that has me nodding in agreement is "An Apology to Democrats and … [Read more...]

Growing in your marriage

  She needed to be a brunette.  The bride-on-the-wedding-cake-topper-thingy, that is. Fourteen years ago, finding a brunette {because I am not blonde} cake-topper bride was a huge priority in my life.  On the eve of making the biggest commitment of my life. Thankfully, my grandparents rose to the challenge and scoured stores in the four-state area to find me a brunette bride and a dark haired groom cake-topper and all was right with my wedding. I look back now and chuckle to myself.  I thought it was all about the wedding.  The perfect day I had dreamed about since I was a little girl.  Finding my Prince Charming.  The white dress, the heart shaped tiers of the cake, the bouquet...it was all important to me.  Now, I have come to realize that the important things in … [Read more...]

Finding “the one”

I was a seventeen year old, belly beginning to swell with new life, shoulders hunched with the heaviness of life. Satan had robbed me of the belief that I deserved love.  In fact, I was convinced that love didn't really exist.  If a man purported to "love" me, if meant that he wanted something from me. I was on my own, figuratively and literally. I rented a room in an apartment.  I walked to work the drive thru window, saving every penny for the baby that would be joining me soon. And, then I met Mike.   I wasn't looking for the one. I was not looking for a mate, let alone a soul-mate for life.  A life-long commitment was too grand a concept for my mind and my heart to fathom. The first time I met him, he was washing dishes shirtless.  And, my first thought was not how good … [Read more...]

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