A Mother’s Heart

I love writing at the M.O.B Society (for mother's of boys, by mother's of boys). Here is an excerpt from my latest column, A Mother's Love Builds a Boys Heart: Our children get their emotional cues from us, even when they are in the womb.  They are learning from a young age about conflict and healthy conflict resolution from interactions with us.  How we respond to their dad when we are angry with him, how we talk about a friend who has wronged us, how we react when our boys make a mistake will all shape the way our sons view and handle conflict... Join me there to read the rest? … [Read more...]

Sneak Peek

It has been a while since I've done an Insta-Friday post. Heck, its been a while since I've written any type of post.  I have been writing, just not here.  God has me focused on a book {which I will probably publish as an ebook in the fall} and all my writing time {which is limited since I returned to working a traditional job} is spent on that pen to paper writing that I truly enjoy. I do think of this space often, and wrote a series the week of Mother's Day that you can read here, here and here. I hope y'all can forgive me for the sporadic posting and stick with me.  I pray for each of you, even though I probably don't know the majority of you {leave a comment and tell me about yourselves}. Anyways, here is my life in iPhone pictures from the last two weeks: She is getting so big.  … [Read more...]

Playing Catch Up

It has been a whirlwind two weeks.  Last week, Mike and I traveled to Ft. Leonard Wood, MO to pick up our soldier. It was a long, grueling 15 hour drive.  But, I did get to spend it with this cutie. We watched Jason graduate as a military police officer for the US Army {mama couldn't be more proud} then we headed back home to the other three kids, one grandbaby and two dogs that waited for us at home. We got back at 4am last Friday morning.  Monday, I had two follow-up interviews, was offered positions at both companies and accepted a position as an Admissions Coordinator for a skilled nursing facility about 15 minutes from our home.  {The surprising part is that I start this coming Monday!  Will y'all pray for me?} I have realized this week that I may be creating a monster future … [Read more...]

Safe at Home

We traveled 942 miles each way last week to Fort Leonard Wood, MO. Jason graduated as a military police officer for the US Army and this mama breathed a sigh of relief as we loaded his {very heavy} bags to bring him home. Is there any other place we, as mama's, would rather have our children than safe at home? It has been a wonderful weekend of family time, movies, snacks, laughing, and re-acclimating. On Mother's Day, my family and I will walk to raise awareness for children in the foster care system. Children that don't know what it is like to be safe at home. I was that child. Jason was that child before he came to us. Shayla was that child. The value of a safe and loving home is never taken for granted in my heart.  Millions of children around the world and in your own … [Read more...]

The Joy of Family

Our family is comprised of more than just blood relatives. Most of our children are related to only one of us {or neither of us} by blood, yet my heart birthed love for them as strong as the love knit in my womb. God weaves together families in beautiful and unexpected patterns. Sweet Pea had her first gymnastics class on Saturday.  It's called Gyminy Crickets {how stinkin' cute is that?} Every Saturday in March, she gets to tumble and play with her mama and daddy, while Mimi {that's me} watches from the observation window. My heart was so touched for her.  A generational curse was broken when God brought her mama to us and she is being raised in an entirely different environment than Shayla was.  She won't know neglect and she won't wonder who is going to take care of her from day to … [Read more...]

A Pat on the Back

We have a special family. Knitted together by God. Shayla became ours when she was 18 and blessed us with the gift of having Sweet Pea in our lives {she is a rowdy and adorable 15 month old right now} Jason was Mike's son from his first marriage but because of abuse and neglect came to live with us in 1999 when he was six years old and I adopted him in 2000. I was pregnant with Jared when Mike and I met.  He was in the delivery room when Jared was born and legally adopted him. Matt was unplanned {never take birth control and antibiotics at the same time} and is the only one that has both my and Mike's blood running through his veins {which we frequently use as the excuse for his stubborn personality} I tell you all of this because I truly believe what the Bible says in Psalm 68:6, … [Read more...]

Ready or not

Fourteen years ago today, my youngest son was born.  His birth was traumatic for my 18 year old self. My water broke in the car on the way to the hospital and he was born in the hallway as I was wheeled off the elevator to the labor and delivery floor. Matthew was coming, whether I was ready or not. {He had been trying to come since 26 weeks but praise God, we made it to 38!} At home was his sixteen month old brother and in Iowa was his four year old brother, waiting for us to come and rescue him. I was about to become a mama to three boys under the age of five, ready or not. Now, Matt is fourteen.  It is a privilege to watch him become a smart, inquisitive, witty, compassionate, unique, creative young man. Ready or not, my boy is growing up. Happy birthday, Matt!  I love being … [Read more...]

Covenant and the sex talk

Today’s culture and society has lost sight of the seriousness of the covenant of marriage and the role of sex. Sex is symbolic of a covenant between a married man and his wife. A covenant that we will be held accountable to one day. In a culture where sex is viewed casually and more than half of marriages end in divorce, we as moms need to teach our boys about covenant.... You can read the rest of this post at The M.O.B Society, where I write the monthly column, Tackling "the talk". … [Read more...]

Miscellaneous Melissa

Remember when I said I wouldn't fall behind on posting for Toni's 30 day challenge? Ahem...yeah. So, anyway here I am playing catch up again {days 15-22}.  Bear with me, mmmk? Day 15: Show your dream home If this question had been posed three years ago, my dream would have materialized quite differently.  However, since reading Radical and going on a journey with God {as a family} our view of our future and our desires for that future have changed.  No longer do I want to move to the mountains to a log cabin with my hubby.  I don't need granite counter tops or hardwood floors {although I'm not opposed to either}. In fact, we made the decision to downsize in December 2009 to a house half the size with a lot an eighth of the size and have not regretted it {except for the days I long … [Read more...]

School Daze

We are back in the groove, the school groove that is. Our mornings look something like this: Smack at the alarm clock at 5:30.  As I come out of the room, Jared is getting in the shower and Matt is still snoring in his bed. Take Chloe {the dog} or Sweet Pea {the baby} and put them on Matt's bed to wake him from his slumber. Cook breakfast for hungry boys while nursing my first cup of coffee. Pray over boys as they eat their breakfast. Make sure they haven't forgotten anything {to no avail!  Most mornings I discover something they forgot after they have left.  This morning it was Matt's Spanish II notebook} Hug goodbye as they leave for the bus at 6:25. On a good day, I fill my second cup of coffee and get started on my day.  On a real day, I crawl back under the covers and re-set … [Read more...]

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