Category Archives: parenting

Taming the Temper

I am into round 2 of raising up littles. My four are grown (24, 22, 19 and 18) and we currently have a 10 year old foster daughter and 5 yr old and 2 yr old grandkiddos under our roof. In a lot of ways, I am WAY more laid back and relaxed this go round. But, I have to admit that, more often than I would like, my temper gets the best of me and I react instead of respond to these crazy kids.

I could make excuses for that (the sheer amount of words the 5 year old uses in a given day is enough to drive anyone to lose their ever lovin’ mind, I promise you) but I don’t want to. I want to change it. I don’t want to wound them with my tone and my words. I want to pour love into them in every interaction.

And, God laid on my heart to work on this very thing this Lenten season. Negativity, unkind words, ugly tone. I’m watching my words, remember?

It shouldn’t have surprised me when I got a message from my friend, Amber Lia, asking me to review her new book (co-written with Wendy Speake). The book is called Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. I was excited to read and review the book in order to help out my friend on the week of her book launch. I didn’t expect how much the book would speak straight to my heart and my current circumstances. But, God is funny like that and knew this book was just what I needed.

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This book is full of Biblically based truths, including nuggets like this:

“The power of a loud voice isn’t real power.”

“Angry punishments crush our children’s spirits, but loving consequences correct their hearts”

“Be exhausted if you must, but give your kids your best self anyway” 

The book identifies external and internal triggers that drive us mama’s to react in a negative way and provides alternative reactions and ways to cope. Most importantly, the book points us to the One that can give us the strength to control our tongues and our reactions.

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I encourage you to buy this insightful little book and consider a new perspective on parenting. I know the littles in my life will be benefiting from the wisdom I gleaned from this powerful read.

What are your triggers?

 

You’ve Got This, Mama

My monthly post for The MOB {Mothers of Boys} Society is up over there.  I wrote about a difficult topic but one that many of us mama’s have or will face.  Would love you to join me there today!  

My Real Children

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When Parenting Teens and Young Adults is Hard

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Loosening My Grip

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For your desperate mama moments

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What You Learn From a Quiet House

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Moments Like This

Sunday, my daughter will become a wife.   I will return with regular posting {actually a 31 day series} October 1st. Appreciate your love and prayers in the meantime!

Hitting the books

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Desperate for love

I stumbled across Reece’s Rainbow several years ago and have been a staunch supporter of their cause ever since.  Reece’s Rainbow advocates for children with special needs, specifically Down Syndrome, in other countries that are in need of forever families.  Selfishly, I want to bring little Lianne or Megan or Tara home and love onContinue Reading