Is There Such a Thing as a Good Fight?

Mike and I didn't fight well in the first several years of our marriage.  We were both the oldest child in our respective families.  Combined with the overwhelming need to be right and coming from dysfunctional households, our arguments tended to get nasty very quickly. I was the main culprit with a cruel tongue and, at times, a vindictive nature. When he and I both look back on those days we are amazed that we are still together.  In July we will celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary!  Praise the Lord. Marriage counseling helped us tremendously.  We learned how to fight.  We were not taught NOT to fight.  Let's face it- living with someone 24-7, 365 days a year is not possible without some friction.  We were taught HOW to fight.  How to express our differences of opinion, our … [Read more...]

Sacred community

She had left her body about an hour earlier. Twelve of us stood around her hospital bed, hands clasped, lips forming the words to Amazing Grace. Scriptures read, stories shared, tears shed. It was one of the most sacred experiences of my life. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------   I had unknowingly entered a sacred sisterhood.  A band of women caring for a dying friend. They called themselves Donna's Angels and I, out of a desire to be kind to the gravely ill mother of my son's friend, became a member.  I had no idea the magnitude of blessing I would receive. Friends that gave up their nights and weekends with their families to … [Read more...]

25 Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

The hubby and I have been married for 15 years, together for 17.  He still makes my heart race.  He is my best friend, my fiercest advocate and my rock, soft enough to lay my head on, tough enough to stay with me for all these years. Our marriage has been full of ups and downs, peaks and valleys. A strong commitment and God at the center is what has brought us together through the storms.  Each obstacle we have faced, whether it was parenting a special needs child, adoption or my chronic illness, has brought us closer together. I've been with this man for half my life.  And sometimes the busyness of life, the fatigue of motherhood, the temptation to give up when things got tough-- those circumstances have tested our love and threatened our spark.  On this week of Valentine's Day, I … [Read more...]

Moments Like This

Sunday, my daughter will become a wife.   I will return with regular posting {actually a 31 day series} October 1st. Appreciate your love and prayers in the meantime! … [Read more...]

Love is…

Love is... watching your husband love on a baby, having opened his heart and life to the unexpected and embracing it for all it is worth. Love is... a teenager playing with a little cousin, making them laugh and admitting they had a good time, too. Love is... opening your heart and trusting God to give you enough love to go around to all those He gives you to love. Love is... accepting your body as the Temple in which He dwells and loving it accordingly.  Not in spite of the imperfections but because you are just who He created you to be, imperfections and all. Love is.... cheering your son on in a sport that you do not understand and makes you cringe to watch. Love is... celebrating the moments, big and small, together.  Giving glory to the One that makes all things new! Love … [Read more...]

{day 5} Know that you know

  If I counted all the ways that God has shown up for me, come through for me, just plain loved on me-- it would take way more than one little old blog post. I know that He is looking out for even the smallest details in my {and your} life. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today, and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, how much more will he clothe you—you of little faith! ~Luke 12:28 I know that He cares when I hurt and He hears me when I pray. The LORD has heard my cry for mercy; the LORD accepts my prayer. ~Psalm 6:9 I know that He promises good will come. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. ~Romans 8:28 I know that I am forgiven and loved. I am writing to you, … [Read more...]

Growing in your marriage

  She needed to be a brunette.  The bride-on-the-wedding-cake-topper-thingy, that is. Fourteen years ago, finding a brunette {because I am not blonde} cake-topper bride was a huge priority in my life.  On the eve of making the biggest commitment of my life. Thankfully, my grandparents rose to the challenge and scoured stores in the four-state area to find me a brunette bride and a dark haired groom cake-topper and all was right with my wedding. I look back now and chuckle to myself.  I thought it was all about the wedding.  The perfect day I had dreamed about since I was a little girl.  Finding my Prince Charming.  The white dress, the heart shaped tiers of the cake, the bouquet...it was all important to me.  Now, I have come to realize that the important things in … [Read more...]

Finding “the one”

I was a seventeen year old, belly beginning to swell with new life, shoulders hunched with the heaviness of life. Satan had robbed me of the belief that I deserved love.  In fact, I was convinced that love didn't really exist.  If a man purported to "love" me, if meant that he wanted something from me. I was on my own, figuratively and literally. I rented a room in an apartment.  I walked to work the drive thru window, saving every penny for the baby that would be joining me soon. And, then I met Mike.   I wasn't looking for the one. I was not looking for a mate, let alone a soul-mate for life.  A life-long commitment was too grand a concept for my mind and my heart to fathom. The first time I met him, he was washing dishes shirtless.  And, my first thought was not how good … [Read more...]

Do you know my Jesus?

I know He doesn't look like the pictures I've seen since childhood. I know He loves me more than I will ever be able to fathom. I know that He cares about the details of my life, the lives of teen girls and the lives of all that read this. I know that He works ALL things for good and hears every prayer. I know that He died for my sins and because of that God sees me as righteous. I know there are people I love that don't know Him. I know I want them to know Him the way I do. I know He can set them free...from bondage, strongholds, addictions and pain. I know that I pray everyday they will allow Him to do so. I know He wants them to believe. I know He loves them and died for their redemption and yours, same as He did for mine. I know if you ask me how I know all this, I could … [Read more...]

Of boys and learners permits

Image via Wikipedia I'm not ready for this. That is what I was thinking as I sat in my (bonus) son's MDT (multi-disciplinary meeting) yesterday.  The collective decision (which I agree with, I just don't like) was made that he can get his learner's permit next month. My boy is going to drive.  I'm not ready for this. Let me clarify that he will not be driving in a car that has me as a passenger, observer or anything else.  I should probably be forced to stay indoors with a bottle of valium when I know he is on the road. My hubby will be his instructor until driver's ed begins in April.  My sole part of this process (other than taking him to the DMV for the written portion of the test) will be to worry my head off. But will worrying get me anywhere? No. In addition to the fact that … [Read more...]

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