I am into round 2 of raising up littles. My four are grown (24, 22, 19 and 18) and we currently have a 10 year old foster daughter and 5 yr old and 2 yr old grandkiddos under our roof. In a lot of ways, I am WAY more laid back and relaxed this go round. But, I have to admit that, more often than I would like, my temper gets the best of me and I react instead of respond to these crazy kids.
I could make excuses for that (the sheer amount of words the 5 year old uses in a given day is enough to drive anyone to lose their ever lovin’ mind, I promise you) but I don’t want to. I want to change it. I don’t want to wound them with my tone and my words. I want to pour love into them in every interaction.
And, God laid on my heart to work on this very thing this Lenten season. Negativity, unkind words, ugly tone. I’m watching my words, remember?
It shouldn’t have surprised me when I got a message from my friend, Amber Lia, asking me to review her new book (co-written with Wendy Speake). The book is called Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. I was excited to read and review the book in order to help out my friend on the week of her book launch. I didn’t expect how much the book would speak straight to my heart and my current circumstances. But, God is funny like that and knew this book was just what I needed.
This book is full of Biblically based truths, including nuggets like this:
“The power of a loud voice isn’t real power.”
“Angry punishments crush our children’s spirits, but loving consequences correct their hearts”
“Be exhausted if you must, but give your kids your best self anyway”
The book identifies external and internal triggers that drive us mama’s to react in a negative way and provides alternative reactions and ways to cope. Most importantly, the book points us to the One that can give us the strength to control our tongues and our reactions.
I encourage you to buy this insightful little book and consider a new perspective on parenting. I know the littles in my life will be benefiting from the wisdom I gleaned from this powerful read.
What are your triggers?