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One Word 2015: Accept


I’ve prayerfully chosen a word as the theme for my year since 2009.

2009: Gratitude

2010: Giving

2011: Grace

2012: Confident

2013: Well

2014: Share

and now, 2015 will be the year to accept. defines accept like this:


to take or receive (something offered); receive with approval or favor:

I’m going to accept compliments and constructive criticism with grace and gratitude.

to agree or consent to; accede to:

I’m going to accept apologies at face value and not hold on to grudges.

to respond or answer affirmatively to:

I’m going to accept invitations to spend time with friends and family whenever possible.  Relationships are priority this year.

to undertake the responsibility, duties, honors, etc., of:

I’m going to continue to accept the responsibilities of the multiple roles I live (wife, mom, Mimi, sister, aunt, friend, employee, et al.) It is an honor to be wife to Mike, mama to Shayla, Jason, Jared and Matt, Mimi to Lariah, Zaeven and Micole, sister to Ian, Thomas, Raechel, Brystal and Tsjaad, aunt to many sweet little faces, friend to many sweet women that God has gifted to me, Director of Admissions {the best job I’ve ever had} and all the other hats I wear (volunteer, mentor, writer).

to receive or admit formally, as to a college or club.
I am going to seek acceptance into a graduate program in mental health counseling or clinical psychology in 2015.

to accommodate or reconcile oneself to:

I am going to accept and embrace the stage of life I am in while waiting patiently for the next chapter to be revealed. My nest is only half full. With Matt graduating high school this year, I find myself searching for ways to define my worth other than being a full time mom. While I pray we will adopt in the future, I need to accept where I am RIGHT THIS MOMENT and be okay with it.  To find the joy in these last months with Matt, to find purpose in my relationship with my adult children, to relish the time that Mike and I find ourselves with to invest in our relationship , to reconcile myself to the fact that I can’t go back and it’s time to find my place without being defined by my kids.

to regard as true or sound; believe:

I am going to accept myself.  Who I am (an ENTJ, high D in the DISC, gold in the Colors profile), who God created me to be. I’ve spent many years trying to downplay or change who I am and apologize for it.  While I have toned down the negative tendencies, being a strong, direct female is not a bad thing.  And, I vow to accept that in 2015.

             There is a time for everything,    

and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.  Ecclesiates 3

It’s time to embrace the season, to dance, to laugh and love. It’s time to accept.

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