Category Archives: childhood

Foster Parent Prayers Day 3

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Psalm 91:1-2

I have discovered there is a lot of worry that can accompany the foster care journey. Our kids come to us with sad and sometimes scary stories. Sometimes they are reunited before we think they are (or their bio family) ready. Sometimes a judge orders contact with a parent that hurt them physically. Sometimes they are exposed to domestic violence. Sometimes– heck, most times– we don’t get much of a say for their safety or well being outside of the walls of our home.

I have also discovered that worrying and fretting doesn’t serve a purpose other than to work me up and stress me out. A wise friend reminds me frequently that fear and faith can’t co-exist. So, the next time you are worried about the safety of your foster child or the uncertainty of their future, turn your worry over to God. I keep a prayer journal and many of its pages are me pouring my heart out to God on behalf of the kids in my care. Trading my worry for faith that He will cover them with His shadow and keep them safe.Will you trade yours today, too?


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May is…for moments and memories and miracles

May is National Foster Care Month. This thirty one day month contains Mother’s Day as well. A day both bitter and sweet. Then, there is tomorrow. May 22nd.  The day, sixteen years ago, I physically became a mother. May brings a mixed bag of feelings to this heart of mine. A desperation to help, healContinue Reading

Giving Up On God {part two}

Read part one here. Why was God letting this happen?  What did I do wrong?  This isn’t how it was supposed to be. It didn’t take but a few days for my family and the authorities to find me when I ran away.  The family court judge deciding my fate took my “strong feelings” intoContinue Reading

Giving Up On God {part one}

I remember the day I gave up on God. I held the phone to my ear while angry, hot tears streamed silently down my face.  As I listened and realized that I had been lied to for months by those closest to me, I made a rash and defiant decision.  If no one was lookingContinue Reading

Keeping it Real at Christmas

My chest tightens, my temples throb, my palms get sweaty. I breath faster and the desire to run away, RUN AWAY, is breathing down my neck. Am I in a dangerous situation? No. I sit on my comfy living room sofa, feeling like something heavy sits on my chest and wanting to lace up myContinue Reading

What message are you sending?

The message. One of the critical aspects of tackling the talk with your kids is defining your message.  Our boys internalize our values by observing us and listening to us.  The message that we communicate to our sons about sexuality needs to be thought out and prayed over, not an afterthought or happenstance. How doContinue Reading

To Save a Teen’s Life

This weekend our family went to our church’s annual fall family retreat.  You can read about one of my take away experiences here. The first night youth and their parents were invited to watch a movie in the chapel.  The movie was called To Save a Life.  To watch the trailer of the movie, clickContinue Reading

Avoid the Summer Reading Slump

Guest contributor and producer Wendy Toone, offers great tips on how your kids can avoid brain drain when they’re out of school. Take a look… It’s Summertime! Catching fireflies, eating dinner on the deck, swimming, no school!!! What have your kids been doing? Waking up late, lazing around in front of the TV? It’sContinue Reading

Training up a Child(ren) when you don’t agree

I love my husband.  He loves me. That being said, we often have differing opinions about raising up our boys. Not that one way is better than the other, just that we come at this parenting thing with different experiences, different ideals and different wounds. Yes, I said wounds.  I have found in my almostContinue Reading

Raising future men

My boys went on a little adventure last weekend.  They rode their bikes 1.5 miles from home (each way) to a convenience store to buy some candy- without permission!  My husband and I only found out because they ran into a couple from our church at the store (thank God!). My first reaction was UGLY! Continue Reading