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What it means to be Pro-Life

A few weeks ago I attended a baby shower. The church was decorated adorably (pink, purple and zebra print) to celebrate the impending arrival of a little baby girl. Twenty women arrived with yummy treats to share. The gift table was full to overflowing and we played the traditional baby shower games. It was a fun afternoon. But, the thing that made it special to me was the fact that, for most of the women in attendance, the mom-to be was a complete stranger.


My friend, Karen, had created an afternoon full of love and celebration for someone that we hardly knew. She invited and women came! They came to love on an unwed mama, down on her luck, who is set to deliver a sweet babe in a few weeks. I can’t think of a better way to illustrate Christ’s love. This mama to be was showered with not just practical gifts but with love, acceptance and grace.


On my way home from the shower, I tearfully recalled when a life was growing inside of me and I did not experience that same love, acceptance or grace. I was sixteen and alone. No one to throw a baby shower for the little boy in my tummy and not many who supported the decision I made when I walked out of the abortion clinic with my pregnancy still intact.

In this election season, the words “pro-life” get thrown around a lot and what people seem to really mean when they say it is that they are “anti-abortion”. Friends, there is a major difference between being pro-life and being anti-abortion. The day I sat in a clinic, wrestling with the reproductive options presented, I had walked right past people holding picket signs. Their passion and vigor went basically unnoticed by a girl whose mind was already full of swirling thoughts. Their position did not influence my decision in the slightest. And, when I walked out, not a single one of them offered to pray with me or ask me if I was ok. Little did they know they were missing out on an opportunity to pour love and acceptance into a girl who had made a decision to give her child life but was still wondering if it was the right one.

But, my salvation story is rooted in the love and acceptance of two sweet women I met when that same baby was a toddler, who threw open their hearts and their church to love on teen moms. Being pro-life is so much more than trying to convince people that abortion is wrong. A true pro-life stance requires much more than ideology. Coming alongside a mom who is struggling to figure out how she is going to raise a baby alone is being pro-life. Pro-life is loving on the mom who is heartbroken with the regret of a past abortion. Supporting the rights of the disabled is pro-life. Becoming a foster parent is pro-life. Pro-life is not a political position. It is a value, exemplified in the actions of a person committed to walking alongside the hurting and the broken and honoring all life.

The question then becomes…..Are you truly pro-life?

Watching My Words

I don’t know why I choose to observe Lent because I’m terrible at it. Fasting from something for 40 days is apparently not my strong suit. I remember one of the first times I observed Lent I gave up sweet tea. Yes, that sounds silly but I had a habit of going through the MickeyContinue Reading

I was once a lost cause

A girl of just thirteen faces torment and abuse from her peers. We excuse it that kids that age don’t know any better.  They are too young to wrap their minds and manners around the concept of a peer having a baby. Then, you witness the behavior of those same kids mama’s…throwing stones of accusationContinue Reading

Whitney Houston and my witness

If I made a soundtrack of my life many of the songs would be sung by Whitney Houston. When I heard about her death I was saddened by the seeming waste of talent and the brevity of her life. Then a picture started circling Facebook and I “liked’ it. It was basically saying that WhitneyContinue Reading

Battling Perfectionism

{an edited post from the archives as I spend Christmas break with my family} The imperfections of a man, his frailties, his faults, are just as important as his virtues.  You can’t separate them.  They’re wedded.  ~Henry Miller I remember well the days that perfectionism consumed my life. I suppose I came by the desireContinue Reading

Falling into place

Crisp, cool air. Leaves on the trees hint brilliance and the stroke of the Artist’s hand. Flavors and aromas, cinnamon and pumpkin, entice my soul. Fall is my favorite time of year. There is something about the air, the scenery, the smell and taste of autumn that propels me forward from the dog days ofContinue Reading

Biting my tongue

“but no man can tame the tongue.  It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison”. James 3:8 Sarah Mae wrote a post several months ago that featured a story from the movie, Doubt.  I can think of no better way to address the topic of gossip and slander than to send you to readContinue Reading

Covenant and the sex talk

Today’s culture and society has lost sight of the seriousness of the covenant of marriage and the role of sex. Sex is symbolic of a covenant between a married man and his wife. A covenant that we will be held accountable to one day. In a culture where sex is viewed casually and more thanContinue Reading

Sticks and stones

We aren’t called to defend ourselves–we are called to defend our God and His Word. That’s why Jesus overturned the money changers tables. He was protecting God’s house. He never acted that way to defend himself, in fact they said all kinds of terrible things about him based on their lack of understanding and pureContinue Reading

Getting down and dirty with Jesus

I am a girly girl. I am quite certain that is why God made me the mama of three active boys {proof of God’s sense of humor}. I don’t “do” certain things: dirt, bugs, scary movies..did I mention dirt? My hubby and boys laugh at the amount of luggage I take on a camping trip. Continue Reading