Parenting boys…not for the faint of heart

Parenting boys is not for the faint of heart. I have weathered many ER trips, wrestling matches gone wrong, bloody noses, scraped knees and broken bones. {I have three rough and tumble boys, excluding my husband}.  And, as I sat in the ER with my boy, I am ashamed to admit that my thoughts were wandering to angry places.  Angry at the risk, angry at the sure to rise insurance premiums, angry at myself for letting him drive alone when my mama heart wanted to keep him little forever... Yes, I was having selfish and angry thoughts the very same night my son wrecked the van and hurt himself. Read the rest of my mama confession over at the MOB Society.   … [Read more...]

One of my favorite titles

As many of you know, I write monthly for The M.O.B Society, a site for moms of boys written by moms of boys. They are hosting a boy mom bloghop this week and I wanted to participate {I look forward to finding some new boy mama's to tweet with and read}. Parenting is one of the greatest joys {and challenges} of my life. And, parenting boys is such a privilege.  Raising men, future husbands and fathers, is a responsibility and an honor.  God has blessed me with three boys {and a daughter}. Allow me to introduce you to my guys: This is Jason, or "J" as I call him.  He turned 19 in March, a week and a half after he graduated as a military police officer for the Army National Guard.  J is a handsome, stubborn, shy young man who unabashedly loves his mama.  He never forgets my birthday, is … [Read more...]

Important prayer request + miscellaneous multitasking

I have let go of many online commitments and obligations in the last several months as I returned to the work-outside-the-home-in-corporate-America world.  I was sad to release many of them and prayed through each decision.  One commitment that God did not release me from {and I'm really glad He didn't} is writing for The MOB Society. Raising three boys to teenagedom has to make me an expert at something, right?  {cough, cough} In all seriousness, I am beyond proud of the amazing site that Erin and Brooke have built to support and encourage moms of boys.  And, today I am joining with them in asking you to pray for a cause dear to The MOB's heart.  The people of the DRC. Brooke has posted a heart wrenching update on the MOB site today and I ask each of you that read this to stop, read it … [Read more...]

A Mother’s Heart

I love writing at the M.O.B Society (for mother's of boys, by mother's of boys). Here is an excerpt from my latest column, A Mother's Love Builds a Boys Heart: Our children get their emotional cues from us, even when they are in the womb.  They are learning from a young age about conflict and healthy conflict resolution from interactions with us.  How we respond to their dad when we are angry with him, how we talk about a friend who has wronged us, how we react when our boys make a mistake will all shape the way our sons view and handle conflict... Join me there to read the rest? … [Read more...]

InstaFriday and a Bible reading plan update

I got an iPhone 4s {insert geeky squeal here} right before Christmas! I am in love with this gadget, particularly the Pinterest app and Instagram. Imagine my delight in finding a bloggy link-up for sharing your photos from the week {cause I take a ridiculous amount of photos with my phone}. Here is my week in photos: all my kids sitting in one spot without bickering, a photo worthy moment indeed 12/31/11 Sweet Pea plunking on the piano to keep the residents of the nursing home entertained! 1/2/12 Jared, my uber cool 15 year old who will still take photos with mama 12/31/11 Mike and I saying goodbye to our soldier, Jason, for 3 more months of training. 1/3/12 crazy game night {Partini, anyone?} on New Year's Eve at casa del Smallwood 12/31/11 Spent much of the week like this since … [Read more...]

A Pat on the Back

We have a special family. Knitted together by God. Shayla became ours when she was 18 and blessed us with the gift of having Sweet Pea in our lives {she is a rowdy and adorable 15 month old right now} Jason was Mike's son from his first marriage but because of abuse and neglect came to live with us in 1999 when he was six years old and I adopted him in 2000. I was pregnant with Jared when Mike and I met.  He was in the delivery room when Jared was born and legally adopted him. Matt was unplanned {never take birth control and antibiotics at the same time} and is the only one that has both my and Mike's blood running through his veins {which we frequently use as the excuse for his stubborn personality} I tell you all of this because I truly believe what the Bible says in Psalm 68:6, … [Read more...]

Ready or not

Fourteen years ago today, my youngest son was born.  His birth was traumatic for my 18 year old self. My water broke in the car on the way to the hospital and he was born in the hallway as I was wheeled off the elevator to the labor and delivery floor. Matthew was coming, whether I was ready or not. {He had been trying to come since 26 weeks but praise God, we made it to 38!} At home was his sixteen month old brother and in Iowa was his four year old brother, waiting for us to come and rescue him. I was about to become a mama to three boys under the age of five, ready or not. Now, Matt is fourteen.  It is a privilege to watch him become a smart, inquisitive, witty, compassionate, unique, creative young man. Ready or not, my boy is growing up. Happy birthday, Matt!  I love being … [Read more...]

Covenant and the sex talk

Today’s culture and society has lost sight of the seriousness of the covenant of marriage and the role of sex. Sex is symbolic of a covenant between a married man and his wife. A covenant that we will be held accountable to one day. In a culture where sex is viewed casually and more than half of marriages end in divorce, we as moms need to teach our boys about covenant.... You can read the rest of this post at The M.O.B Society, where I write the monthly column, Tackling "the talk". … [Read more...]

School Daze

We are back in the groove, the school groove that is. Our mornings look something like this: Smack at the alarm clock at 5:30.  As I come out of the room, Jared is getting in the shower and Matt is still snoring in his bed. Take Chloe {the dog} or Sweet Pea {the baby} and put them on Matt's bed to wake him from his slumber. Cook breakfast for hungry boys while nursing my first cup of coffee. Pray over boys as they eat their breakfast. Make sure they haven't forgotten anything {to no avail!  Most mornings I discover something they forgot after they have left.  This morning it was Matt's Spanish II notebook} Hug goodbye as they leave for the bus at 6:25. On a good day, I fill my second cup of coffee and get started on my day.  On a real day, I crawl back under the covers and re-set … [Read more...]

On ER visits and Facebook

I am the mama of three boys.  I have experienced my fair share of emergency room visits. Nothing prepared me for Saturday. Jared had been out riding his bike.  He doesn't have his cell phone because he is on restriction.  A strange number called my phone and my boy was on the other end.  Obviously crying, upset and in pain.  "Mommy, I chopped my finger off." He hasn't called me "mommy" since the double digit birthday in 2006.  This was serious. He said he was down by the apartments {there are two sets of apartments in our expansive neighborhood}. I was in the living room. I can't drive. I wasn't sure where everyone else in the house was. So, I did what any rational human being would do. I screamed like a woman possessed and headed out to the van {forgetting my knee brace} to wait for … [Read more...]

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