…and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. Mark 10:8-9
We know that fostering is rewarding and a joy on many days. However, we also know that there are hard days too, a lot of them. Foster parenting is challenging and can be hard on a marriage. It’s important to make time for just you and your spouse to reconnect and stay on the same page. Use respite for a weekend getaway. Have a weekly date night at home after the kids go to bed with takeout and a movie. Play a board game together. Go for an evening walk. Check in with each other throughout the day and always be committed to making your marriage a priority. Many of the children that come into care have never witnessed a healthy relationship before. Your marriage can actually be a witness to these kids and even the workers and professionals you come in contact with.
The hubby and I foster older kids. One of our daughters came to us at 17 and loves to take candid pictures of the hubby and I when we don’t know it. She calls them “off-guards”. I love some of the moments she has captured. Us walking hand in hand, me laying my head on his shoulder or him putting his arm around me in church. A healthy and committed marriage shows the children in our home what a safe relationship looks like. If we aren’t taking the time to nurture our marriage, the stressors of foster parenting can start to erode the relationship.