Our Love Story {not quite what you would expect}

Happy Valentine’s Day!  Whether you are married or single, I think this commercial holiday can be a good excuse to thank God for the people He has placed in your life to love- be it friends, children, a spouse and those He has called you to serve.  Please know that I love and pray for each of you that take time to come this little space on the internet.
I thought it would be fun to participate in this little link-up going around the web about love stories.  Mike and I have a backwards love story that has been redeemed by God and brought together for His purposes in wonderful ways (Romans 8:28).  I would love to hear your story in the comments.  And, if you are waiting on God to bring you the person He has designed for you to spend life with, please let me know in the comments so that I can be praying for you!
1. How long have you and your significant other been together? Mike and I met in January of 1996.  I was 17 (I lied and told him I was older) and I was four months pregnant with Jared at the time.
2. How did you meet? {What’s your “love” story?} I had a roommate and Mike had a roommate.  They were “talking”.  Mike’s roommates mom had met both of us separately and decided to play matchmaker.  Mike and I both resisted because neither of us were interested in a relationship at that time in our lives.  She persisted and created a circumstance for us to “run” into each other.  The rest is history 🙂
3. If married, how long have you been married? If not, is this the guy you hope to marry? {do tell} We have been married since July 6, 1997, a mere 11 weeks before Matthew was born.  Jared was the star of our wedding, babbling “da-da” throughout the ceremony.  We will celebrate a miraculous 15 years of marriage in July, a true testament to the grace of God!
4. If you are married, where did you get married at? Big or small wedding? If not, where would you like to get married? And will it be big or small? We got married outside, under a tent, surrounded by 20+ of our closest friends and relatives.  The most special guest was my great-grandmother who traveled from Florida to attend my wedding.  She is no longer with us and I love the pictures of her smiling up at my man.  She loved him and always reminded me how blessed I was to find him.  We had our reception at a local hotel and just spent the evening enjoying the company of our wedding guests.
5. Do you have any nick-names that you call one another? Do share! I actually call Mike, “husband”.  I just love that he is the man God designed for me.  He calls me “babe” and “Lissa”, which is the nickname only those closest to me use.
6. Name 3 things you love most about your honey.  Just three?  1.  Mike is fiercely loyal.  He will do anything for those he loves and cares about.  He will stick by you and I never doubt his love and commitment to our family.  2.  Mike is generous.  He is generous of his time, his money, his talents and his heart.  He would never call himself generous but to watch him in action, you know he is nothing but a giving and generous man.  3.  Mike is wise.  If you know me {the act first, think later gal that I can be} you know that God brought me a man that thinks and prays through all decisions for a very good reason.  He listens to his intuition {his “gut”, as he calls it} and is not afraid to stand his ground and do what is right, even when it is not popular.  4.  I have to add one more.  Mike is loving and protective.  Even though it sometimes gets on my nerves that he is vigilant about my health and my taking care of myself, it makes me feel very loved.  Watching him with Shayla and Sweet Pea shows how seriously he takes the commitment of being the head of the house, the man, the provider.  I just love this guy!
7. Tell us how he proposed? Or your ideal proposal? Mike is not a romantic by any stretch of the imagination.  I had been bugging him to propose {we were living in sin at the time, just hadn’t met Christ yet to know it was sin} for several months.  I was pregnant with Matt, Jared was about 10 months old.  One day as we were rushing out of the house to get to a family dinner at his moms, he kept telling me he needed to talk to me.  I was getting irritated {I hate to be late} and told him he could talk to me later, just get in the dang car.  When I came in to see what was taking him so long, he was on one knee with a beautiful solitaire diamond and asked me to marry him.  I still chuckle because that scene is just so “us”.
8. Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy for v-day, or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals? Mike is a practical guy.  His love language is quality time so that translates into his gift giving.  He likes to take me to dinner, a movie, a museum.  Anywhere that he can hold my hand and have my undivided attention.  He is a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy when it comes to gift giving but I’m not, so he has learned that a card that he has written in means more to me than a teddy bear, any day of the year.
9. Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl, or pop a movie in and relax on the couch? It depends.  I grew up on the bay so I love the water, sunsets, the beach and find it very romantic.  But, I am equally happy to snuggle on the couch with my man while he watches Forrest Gump for the 1, 345, 876th time 🙂
10. Tell us one thing you’d like to do with your significant one day. If you could do anything? Go anywhere? I want to travel the world with him someday, particularly Greece.
11. Tell us what you plan on doing on this Valentine’s Day.  We are going to do a service project with our small group from church, taking candy to those that are working in restaurants and shops tonight.  Friday we will go out to dinner with Shayla to celebrate her coming home from school.
12. Are you asking for anything this Valentine’s day? Not a thing 🙂
13. Give us one piece of advice of keeping a relationship strong and full of love.  Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize.  If you hold on to the little things, they become a big thing and can drive a wedge in your relationship.
14.  Show us a picture of what love means to you.
You will think this is silly but what man is willing to cut the weave out of his African American daughter’s hair and let his wife take a picture?  That is love.  I love this man!
Don’t forget, I want to hear your love story in the comments.  And if you are waiting on God to bring you a husband, please tell me that too, so that I can pray for you!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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  1. What a beautiful love story!  I just love the redemptive power of God’s love!

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