Focus on the Good

I have friends going through difficult times.  Some friends are single and healing from past hurts.  Some are dealing with the aftermath of divorce.  Some are struggling to stay married.

I pray for marriage everyday.  My marriage, my children’s future spouses, my friends marriages and marriage in general.  God designed this special union to illustrate the way Christ feels about the Church.  What could be more special than that?

While I pray for marriage everyday, I am not good at being married everyday.

Sometimes, when you have been married as long as we have {will be 15 years in July}, you tend to get irritated by the little things that you thought were adorable when you first met.

For instance, I can not stand the way my husband chews.  Simply can NOT take it.  And, I don’t like food in the bed.  So, when he brings his nightly bowl of cereal into the bedroom, my claws come out {good thing I bite my fingernails}.

I write that and then think of the ways I fail at this marriage thing and realize that I need to focus on the good {and there is SO much good}.

To be completely honest, I am difficult to live with most days and exceptionally difficult to live with the other days.  This is not a shocking fact to those that know me well. However, some of my readers might be surprised to learn that I am a moody, tightly wound woman with high expectations of myself and others and the person that sees the ugliest side of me is my hubby.

Ladies, seriously, the man is a saint. I work crazy, bizarre hours in this full-time ministry life.  When I am not away from the house completely, I am tethered to my computer or cell phone.  I am also chronically ill so after the energy I expend on other things, there is not much left over for housework and being domestic. 

Mike loves me enough to let me be the Melissa that God created me to be.  He allows me the freedom to pursue my passions.  He is incredibly generous with his time, money and heart.  He extends grace when I am frazzled and cranky.

We had an impromptu date night on Friday.  Taking the time to listen to him, to spend time with him without the interruptions of kids, work and other craziness was refreshing.  Today I recommit in my heart to focus on the good.

There is so much good!

What do you love about your husband?

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  1. My husband has the most wonderful heart.  I do not think I have ever seen him pass judgement on anyone.  

  2. I don’t have a husband, but I am so blessed by your post because it really applies to every relationship. And I love the reminder that marriage is a reflection of Christ’s love for His church. What a blessing that so many of us take for granted, married or not. Thank you for your very sweet comment on my blog today–so thankful to meet you. <3

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