Is Marriage a Testimony?

I am going to take the boys and pick up Sweet Pea.  See you when you get home.  Drive careful“.

His lips brushed my forehead and he headed out of the lodge with our three sons in tow.  All four of them had rosy cheeks from the windy night of snow tubing we had just enjoyed.

I had a van full of teen moms to chauffeur home so I waved at my hubby and smiled at my boys as they piled into our car.

“How long have you been married?” she asked. “You make it look so easy.”

The first part of the comment was not hard to answer.  I’ve been married since I was eighteen.

But, easy?


I prayed a silent prayer before I answered her question and addressed the questioning in her eyes.

Well, we have been  married for almost 14 years”, I replied.  “And it isn’t ever easy but it has gotten easier over time.”

I was able to take a few moments and explain how our marriage was difficult with a capital D for the first few years.  I brought a lifetime’s worth of baggage and he had his fair share as well.

But, God.

I was saved 2 years after we got married and my husband the following year.  We can look back now and see that the condition of our marriage is directly correlated to whether we allowed God into the equation.

We ended the conversation with her saying she hoped that kind of love was out there for her.

Our brief conversation was an eye opener to me. The world is watching how we, as believers, handle our marriages.

Each and every day I have a choice.  To just go with the flow and see how things turn out or to purpose in my heart to be the wife God created me to be and tap into the strength available through Him to do so.

I don’t often view my marriage as a testimony but it is. I should.

Daily, my children and the girls I work with are looking to see if this love thing, the way God designed for it to be, is real.  Can two people make it work for the long haul?

I am so thankful that my eyes were opened to this reality.

My marriage is speaking to hearts… the question is, do I like what it says?


  1. I don’t have a perfect marriage, but I know that I have a marriage that is grounded in Christ. And it shows to my friends that are not grounded in Him. They are always asking me why we seem so close and say how they wish their husbands would be around more…honestly it’s pretty humbling to hear them say that because there are just days when I am so exhausted and nagging at my husband. The days when I get “questioned” by friends are the days that remind me that yes, my marriage is a daily testimony of the Christ-like example we are called to be in every aspect of our life: Colossians 3:17 – “And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” This verse has become a huge support in my life and I’m sure you’ve read it, I just wanted to share that to encourage you today! Have a great week.

  2. Such a beautiful point, Melissa. My nieces and nephews (who do not come from Christian homes per se) always say that they want a marriage like my husband and I have. Their parents have divorced, and we are a testimony to them. It is really special, and an important challenge to us!

  3. Loved this post.Thank you for sharing it.

    But God, indeed!

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