Monkey see…monkey do?

I know I have said this before but raising teenagers is hard with a capital H. 

With summer comes a lot more invitations for the kids to go to this person’s house, to spend the night with so and so and go play with this group.  Most of the time I encourage the group to play here- we have the air hockey table, the video games, the basketball hoop, etc.  But that doesn’t always suffice.

I pray over my boys when they leave.  So often, they are going in to homes (even Christian ones) that do not share the same rules, values and expectations as we have in our home.  My husband reminds me that this is a great opportunity for our boys to exercise the things they have learned but a mama can’t help but worry.

Yesterday, my boys announced they had a hilarious show they wanted to us to watch as a family.  When they said the name of the show, my first reaction was absolutely not.  I had seen the show before and it is completely inappropriate.  Hubby and I excused ourselves and discussed it.  We decided to watch as a family but before we did we had our 14 year old read to us from Philippians.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.  Philippians 4:8

We asked the boys to keep track in their minds of how many times the show blatantly referenced sex in an inappropriate way.  They rolled their eyes but I saw their fingers keeping track as we watched the show (and I kept a poker face and counted away in my mind).

Fifteen minutes into the half hour show, Jared said “Let’s turn it off, mom.”  So, I did and we inquired why he wanted to.  Jared and Matt were both blushing and embarrassed.  “I counted 12”, said Matt.  “I counted 13”, said Jared. (I had counted 12 by the way)

Folks, we had only watched half of the show.  That is an inappropriate sexual situation, comment or innuendo at the rate of almost one per minute.

Is that what we want penetrating the ears, the eyes and the hearts of our children?  How can we expect them to maintain a pure heart if they are exposed to literal filth on a daily basis?

The easy solution would be to turn off our cable (which we have password protected, BTW) and throw away our TV’s.  But, that would not protect them completely.  They will see these things in the homes of fellow believers.  The important thing is to educate our kids about what to do when they see something that doesn’t coincide with their values or that makes them uncomfortable.

Teenagers, boys and girls alike, need to understand how important it is to guard their hearts.  Guard their eyes.  Guard their ears.  Guard their bodies.

How are you teaching your teen/tween to guard their hearts?


As always, please link up any post you have about parenting teens/tweens below.


  1. What a great idea. I admit it,I'm a bit scared to count sexual references.

  2. It is hard to even turn the television on there is so much junk on it. Even the Disney channel has its fair share of questionable material.
    But it is not just TV. My step daughter attends a dance class and at the age of 8 she is learning moves straight from the videos of Britney Spears. Her mother while religious sees nothing wrong with this.

  3. So now they know how to decide what to watch, but the hard part is being able to speak up when with a friend (or grandparent, aunt, uncle, etc). What do you coach your children to do when they are faced with something that is not what they think is appropriate?

  4. Thank you for this blog, Ive been thinking about this a lot lately

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