Raising future men

My boys went on a little adventure last weekend.  They rode their bikes 1.5 miles from home (each way) to a convenience store to buy some candy- without permission!  My husband and I only found out because they ran into a couple from our church at the store (thank God!).

My first reaction was UGLY!  I was so angry at them- for breaking rules (riding their bikes on main road, not telling us where they were going- I could go on).  I seriously thought I wasn’t going to let them ride their bikes ALL SUMMER.  Overkill?  perhaps but this mama was mad. 

Thankfully, the hubby and I made the choice to defer our discipline decision for a few days so we could pray about what to do.

And, this is what God reminded us:

Last year (as a family) we read the book Wild at Heart by John Eldredge.  In this book he describes the heart of a man, the heart of boys.  The heart that God designed them with.  Here is an excerpt from that book:

The recipe for fun is pretty simple raising boys.  Add to any activity an element of danger, stir in a little exploration, add a dash of destruction, and you’ve got yourself a winner. Wild at Heart page 16.

I won’t even share with you the ways we as moms can really wound and even hold back our boys from becoming Godly men when we are over protective.  I just recommend you read the book!

I am so glad God gave me this insight before we talked to the boys about what happened.  My husband was able to tell them he completely related to the need for adventure and danger, but that we couldn’t allow them to deceive us and put themselves in danger.

So, long story short, they are grounded this week for breaking our rules and not being truthful.  But that craving for adventure, that need to perform daring feats…well, (by the grace of God and to the detriment of my worn out knees) we are going to encourage that desire in them so that they can nurture that wild heart that God gave them.

Would Gideon, Joshua, Moses, David…the list goes on and on…would they have been able to carry out the adventure God had in store for them if they hadn’t been able to practice their sling shot without mama hovering nearby?

I don’t want to stand in the way of what God has in store for my boys.  I’m just going to need to keep my blood pressure medication nearby.

Do you have a post about raising teen/tween boys and/or girls?  I would love for you to link it up below so that we can all remember we are in this together.


  1. MutheringHeights says:

    Goodness…I'm really going to be in for it in a few years! LOL!


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