Praying for your marriage

Do you ever find yourself irritated with your spouse? 

Convinced that they do not have your best interest at heart? 

Wishing you had married someone else? 

 When I am honest, I admit that my flesh has felt all of those things at one time or another the last almost fourteen years.  There is a common thing lacking in my spiritual life when I am vulnerable to those feelings: my prayer life is lacking.

Sure, I am still praying with the kids at night, perfunctory prayers before meals and bowing my head at church.  But I am most vulnerable to submitting to my flesh when I am avoiding bowing before my God on a daily, sometimes hourly basis, submitting my thoughts, my actions, my willingness and my pride, to His perfect will.

When I pray for my husband it is so much harder to be angry with him, to be short with him, to be critical of him.

Why?  Because when I am connected to the Vine I am going to bear fruit.  Bear the fruit of patience, self-control, love and, dare I add, the fruit of appreciation.

God provided Mike for me.  Provided me for Mike.  As a wife I need to be raising my husband up to my Father all the time, praying for his protection, for his heart, for his dreams, for his relationship with God.

The Bible speaks of two kinds of wisdom.  I encourage you to read James 3:13-16 and then rest on the rest of the chapter

But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure, then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.  Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:17-18

Isn’t it amazing?  When we ask God for wisdom, through an active prayer life, we will receive the wisdom and ability to be exactly the type of wife and woman He wants us to be. 

I am committing to praying for my husband and my marriage fervently.  Will you do the same?


  1. I do. And, as someone reminded me last week, when we invest in someone through prayer, our relationships are strengthened.

  2. Wow – good stuff here. It is amazing – prayer requires heart and mind to come together and putting those things together on behalf of our husband and marriage gets us thinking with the mind of Christ! (I wrote about that today, too!) I have found that not praying for my husband really opens my thoughts WIDE to the lies of the enemy, and the weakness of my selfish flesh. Thanks for writing this – for reminding me…

  3. Thanks for this post! I needed it. I definitely do not pray for my husband and my marriage enough. Going to go do that right now.

  4. kristinemcguire says:

    Your very right. The best solution for being aggravated with our husband's is to pray for them. This actually played itself out in my own life today (and ironically I'd written a post about marriage!) but as I lifted him in prayer to the Lord I saw where I needed to change my own attitude. Good article 🙂


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