Yes Mom

Geometry- check

English 9 honors- check

Spanish II- check

Mama ready to burst into tears at scheduling her son’s classes for HIGH SCHOOL next year- check

Every fiber of my being wants to shout NO to all this growing up stuff.  No to girls that are way too forward, no to Facebook, no to later bedtimes, no to…well, I just find myself wanting to say no to anything that resembles my boys growing up.

I was challenged to say yes to my kids this week. Just one day into the challenge and I realize that, for me, saying yes doesn’t have to do with one more bedtime story, making mud pies or candy at the check out line anymore.

Saying yes to my boys at this stage means relinquishing the need to control everything, letting them make some mistakes in the name of independence, and

MOST IMPORTANTLY

deciding to not fight the inevitable but rather make the choice TODAY to

say yes.

Yes to enjoying this awkward (often smelly) stage of life my boys are in

Yes to cherishing the past while taking the time to savor each moment of the present

Yes to watching them grow into the men God designed them to be

Yes to being a mama of growing up boys.

I’m unwrapping my role and embracing it {and trying to ignore the literal searing pain in my chest at the thought of Jared going to high school next year}

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Comments

  1. I hear ya! I'm finding the same issues. It's so hard to say yes when inside you just want to scream NOOOO way, but we all know we have to let them grow up. And they will be better adults if we give them the opportunities to learn now. But it is sooo hard. You are not alone!

  2. Oh, I know exactly what you mean. I am trying to embrace this new stage in life. But I must admit, some days I'm kicking and screaming all the way!

  3. Hi Melissa,

    It's hard to let them grow up, isn't it? My two boys are grown up, and my “baby” girl is now 14, and she doesn't appreciate my hugs like she used to. The good news is we still share a lot of laughs and she loves to bake like I do.

    The good news is eventually grandbabies come along (I have 4!) and the love continues.

  4. heidileonard says:

    Precious! So hard for me to immagine myself in your shoes, though I know it will be here before I know it. My boys are 1 1/2 and 4 1/2 and I'm also daily trying to enjoy the NOW rather than looking ahead to what it will be like WHEN. It's so easy to wish the days away when they are so little and needy, however, each stage has it's own set of sweetness and struggle.

  5. Oh, Melissa, I cannot imagine how hard that is. I'm on the verge of tears all the time because Casiday will be 10 in 2 weeks. But I so appreciate this post … and I need to say “yes” more myself … thank you.

  6. UGGHHH!!! My little man is only 3 and I know it won’t be long til I’m there!!! And Amen to saying no to girls being too forward…and facebook!!! LOL! I’m challenged and encouraged by others journey’s and I know that you’ll have so much wisdom to give others like me soon enough. Thanks for sharing in your journey.

  7. I am SO there with you. My daughter is heading to high school too. I feel like I’m the moody one–one moment so proud and even pushing her to a bit more independence and then the next moment thinking–NO WAY–hold up!

    What a great gift to unwrap. Maybe God needs to wrap His arms around us and embrace the whole thing for us and with us. That sounds like a plan to me. Hugs.

  8. funny about letting them make mistakes. not something we want, but know we have to do. while they are still in safe reach of us. high school can be a big scary place… but i think it is scarier to us than them. they are ready… and i just bet he will be a-ok. because you have taught him well. don't forget to breathe!

  9. This post really resonates with me. My oldest is in middle school and I feel all of this…the difficulty, the joy, the searing pain. Thanks for this reminder that moms are feeling this the world around–and have been forever.

  10. Melissa,
    As one of those Mom's who has been there, my oldest is a freshman in high school, it will be okay. I had all the same worries, a few more because of my son's dyslexia, but I think this year has really matured him. He is having to be organized, responsible for his schedule and like any year of school for us it has it's ups and downs. With Ben's challenges each school year has me praying for graduation, don't get me wrong…I don't want to rush my time with him but I do want to get him through school because I know he is going to be an awesome adult and the knowledge he has learned from the challenges he faced in school will take him far. I want Ben to see that although school was a lot of work, he made it through, he can do anything he sets his mind to.

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