Thankful no matter what…

ttbuttonToday’s theme for Thankful Thursday is trials.  I think that is an appropriate topic for me to write about given the events of the last few weeks (or my whole life if you want to get technical).

Some of you may remember that I broke out in (what they thought were) hives about six weeks ago.  After almost a month with no relief, the results of a skin biopsy revealed that the hives were actually lupus.  Further testing revealed that I have systemic lupus (and my diagnosis of multiple sclerosis is still also accurate).

The lupus diagnosis hit me kind of hard.  I am normally a pretty positive, give it to God, don’t worry about what you can’t control kind of gal.

I don’t know if it was because this was so unexpected r maybe because I am just human, but I felt sorry for myself with a capital S for a good week.

Isn’t it somebody else’s turn to have some problems?

Why does so and so go through life with no worries and they aren’t even walking with the Lord?

Haven’t I proven myself faithful to You yet, Lord?

I didn’t want to feel that way and prayed that God would help me crawl out of my funk…and He is never One to let me down when I ask for direction.

Ironically (or not) it was the word’s in the book of Job that turned my attitude around:

What I feared has come upon me; what I dreaded has happened to me.  I have no peace, no quietness, I have no rest, but only turmoil. Job 3:25-26

Yup that is exactly where I was- keeping myself up at night with the “what-if’s”, the fear of the unknown, googling all the complications that can come from having two complicated autoimmune disorders

Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation?…have you ever given orders to the morning, or shown the dawn its place?…Who endowed the heart with wisdom or gave understanding to the mind? (from the book of Job)

Ouch! God reminded me through those verses and snippets of life experiences He has already brought me through, that I am gfocusing on the wrong thing.  I should not be focusing on the trial but the comforting promise that God already has it handled. This is no surprise to Him.

So, my answer to being thankful and having peace through difficult circumstances also comes from the book of Job (Job’s answer to God and mine too)

I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted. Job 42:2-3

I’m not worried.  I’m not mad.  I am thankful that I have a God carrying these burdens for me.  I just have to remember to give Him my burdens each time they rear their ugly heads.

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  1. I think that being of the thankful mind and knowing we did not cause it, we cannot control it, and we cannot change it we will be rewarded. If we sit around asking “Why me” we just turtle around and never move forward. Such an inspiration mama!

  2. “I’m not worried. I’m not mad. I am thankful that I have a God carrying these burdens for me. I just have to remember to give Him my burdens each time they rear their ugly heads.”

    Such a wonderful post for me to read today! I’ve had my own share of health issues over the last year, but I can testify to God’s faithfulness and the amazing peace that we can only find in him!

    You’ve blessed me today!

  3. Asking God to carry you gently through these trials sweetie.

  4. Thank you Denise. Your sweet spirit is always an encouragement to me!

  5. Karie- you know I <3 you and you are so right. I can only control my response to my trials. Thanks for the tweet out too =)

    Melissa- I am so glad that this post spoke to you and I will be praying for your health issues. Please feel free to email me anytime you need to talk or need support!

  6. Melissa, what a wonderful post! You wrote about this topic so well. I like when you said: “I should not be focusing on the trial but the comforting promise that God already has it handled. This is no surprise to Him.” God already has it handled- we need to remember that!

    I also agree with you when you said: “I just have to remember to give Him my burdens each time they rear their ugly heads.” This is the part I struggle with!

  7. Melissa, I found your post particularily inspirational and uplifting, so let me start by saying thank you for posting this. I can so relate to the things you are going through and your struggles and battles with feeling sorry for yourself. I have arthritis in both of my knees very badly right now. In fact, the doc is telling me knee replacement surgery is definitely in my future for both of them. In the meantime I struggle with everything I do. There is much I want to do and can’t..I have asked why me many times, and yet, He is ever faithful. This whole experience has taught me so much. And I have found that just when I think I can’t take it anymore He finds another way to bring comfort. You have been given a very heavy load no doubt. But He I believe has something very large in mind for you and you seem to be so willing and open to His leading. I will pray for you for sure. Have a GOOD day and many blessings to you, Debbie

  8. I’m so thankful that I’m finding such fabulous women on the web. I never expected to. Am enjoying your blog lady:) XOXO

  9. Jerri- we all struggle with it in the flesh. The secret (and I by no means have this down pat) is relinquishing it to God EVERY time we start to worry about it on our own. Thank goodness we serve a patient God =)

    Debbie- thank you for your kind words. It is hard not to feel sorry for ourselves and it is kind of you to let me know I’m not alone in that struggle. Praying for your health!

    Welcome to the blog, Tori! Thanks for your sweet comment xoxo to you, too 😉

  10. Everything happens for a reason. I sat down at my computer and saw you on Twitter and thought..hey, it’s been forever since I have been on her blog. And I am so happy I thought that! This post is exactly what I needed this week. You are such a wonderful and inspiring person. Thank you for this post.

  11. Very inspiring. It matters SO much where we focus, on the answer or the problem. Thanks for your comment on my blog. God be with you, and comfort you.

  12. My first time visiting…what an awesome blog you have! Thanks for stopping by my place….

    Having had those “Ouch” moments from the Lord, I can relate to your words. Seems like the things I get so worked up about are the very things the Lord teaches me are not important in the scheme of things…trusting and obeying HIM is what He desires from me….

  13. melissa, our God is a God of the impossible. nothing is too hard for him to do and what He has done for others, He will also do for you. He is our healer. when i was diagnosed to have that years ago and that caused me to lose my two babies, i was so devasted and i got mad at God. girl, i was furious! but because of what God allowed me to go through in my marriage, i believe it served as a preparation for my body to recover from the meds and needles that had pierced through my skin every single day. i believe i am healed and the best is yet to come.

    girl, believe that God is your healer because He really is. =D

  14. I wish and see you having a speedy recovery 🙂

    Gratitude connects us to the good in everything. When connected to the good, more good things move into our lives. It’s a challenge to be grateful when hit with a tough circumstance but the more effort you put into finding the good in everything that you can the quicker that you will recover.

    Try reminding yourself every 5 minutes that you’re inherently perfect. God made you perfect, and no matter what appearances surface in our bodies they will pass IF we remind ourselves constantly that we are inherently perfect. The healing power of the mind is awe-inspiring.

    I recently had an extremely agonizing sciatic nerve pain from my lower back to my foot for about 3 weeks. I couldn’t stand for more than one minute without getting shooting pains down my leg, I couldn’t sleep. When I decided to start meditating on Scripture and stating positive health affirmations my healing accelerated rapidly.

    I thank God that a month later my leg is back to normal. Anything is possible when the thinking mind is quieted and we tap into the Big Mind 🙂

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  16. Thank you all for your sweet comments and Pia is so right- we serve a God to whom nothing is impossible! PTL =)

  17. I am praying for you, Melissa. Take care and God bless you. Thanks for your visit.


  18. It’s “funny” how I came across your blog and eventually this post. I was scanning the WW participants’ list and noticed the name of your blog so I clicked through to your picture. Not really a dog person, but your header attracted my attention. I noticed your faith and your chronic illness.

    I have been a little lacking in faith as of lately, but I think it is getting better. And I thought, “Hey, maybe I can chat with her too ’cause it looks like we have a few things in common.” I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia about a year or so ago. Then not too long ago I found out I have a strain of lupus. The last few days I’ve been discovering little rashes all over my body. It’s like more and more are developing. I am a fanatic about my skin, but I have tried not to think about the rashes then I saw this post. Hmmm? Maybe I should pay more attention to them and make setting my follow up appointment a priority.

    What can they do about the rashes? I thought maybe it was a result of the medicine.

    I haven’t been mad about the chronic illnesses and I haven’t even thought why me this time (have had quite a few medical issues over the years), I am just trying to take one day at a time.

    Thanks for this post… sorry my comment is so long.

  19. My dear friend has a twin sister who is in the hospital right now receiving treatment for an MS flare up. I’m sure it is no coincidence that I came upon your blog today. I’m forwarding it to my friend who writes as well. Thanks for sharing.

  20. My friend Carrie sent me a link to your blog. I’m forwarding your post to my twin sis who has MS and I know it will encourage her. Thank you.


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