Wifey Wednesday- Kids and dads

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Oh, so good to be back for Wifey Wednesdays, hosted by Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum.  Today’s topic is about getting your husband involved with child rearing.  It pains my heart to know that many women have difficulty getting their husbands to actively participate in their kid’s lives.  I think we have set up this dynamic with the busyness in our current society and the emphasis on “stuff” versus relationship.  Men who feel pressured to “keep up with the Joneses” are typically absent from the home at the crucial times for developing and maintaining relationships with the kids- meal times.  Studies show that kids who eat dinner with their families get better grades, make better choices with peers and much more.

I also think that sometimes we as mama’s, particularly those of us who like things done our in a particular way, can set dad’s up to not even try to impede on our turf.  For example, if you have just had a baby and don’t let your husband feed the baby, change the baby, comfort the baby at night, etc how do you expect him to feel competent as a father and feel a bond with the baby?  The same is true as our kids get older as well.  We need to be cognizant of whether we are sending messages to our spouse that say- stay out of this parenting thing.  I’ve got it.

In our house we have fun nights with one parent/one child.  Matt and Mike just had one the other night.  They went to a restuarant (of Matt’s choice), played mini-golf (again Matt’s choice) and went to a local RV place to window shop.  Spending time just the two of them, without older brothers in the mix, allows Mike to know what is going on in Matt’s life and feel more like a part of his world (which with Matt is an accomplishment as I think that very few people actually exist in that world LOL).  As a mama and a wife, my role was to make sure that outing got on the calendar.  That’s all- then step aside and let dads be dads.

Any thoughts?  Do any of you struggle with getting your spouse to actively engage in parenting?  Have any of you overcome this problem?  Feel free to join in the conversation 🙂

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