Wifey Wednesday- Sobering Thoughts

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Divorce is a fact of life, particularly in this day and age. My parents divorced, my mom came from a divorced family, my husband came from divorce and so on and so forth. It can be very discouraging to look at the statistics that basically translate to 40- 50% of marriages ending in divorce.

My hubby and I volunteer on the Marriage Ministry team at our church because we are committed to the concept of commitment. But, one thing that we tend to overlook in our lives today, particularly in churches are the families that have already been affected by divorce.

While it is vitally important to focus on keeping marriages strong, saving marriages that are in trouble and educating couples about communication, finances, sex and other issues prior to marriage; we can’t neglect the hurting people in our lives who have been impacted by divorce. According to statistics children who grow up in a broken home tend to live in poverty much more often than children whose parents remain together.

I think of the times that my hubby and I experienced difficulties in our marriage (and yes, to the point one or both of us wanted to call it quits) and I thank God that He was able to be the common ground in our marriage that helped us remain together despite difficult circumstances. I also think how fortunate I am that was the case given all that has occured in my life in the last few years. I don’t want to imagine what going through all those things would have been like without the support of my husband.

And, that is what has me thinking today. What are we (as believers, Ambassadors of Christ) doing for the modern day widows- the single moms struggling to make ends meet, to be both mother and father to their child, to work outside of the home and maintain a physical home for their child(ren)? Are we too quick to judge and not quick enough to offer assistance? Are we providing opportunities for people who to grieve over the loss of a marriage, the death of a dream? Are we encouraging reconciliation when possible and safe but showing the support and love of our Heavenly Father no matter the choices a person makes?

Lord, I pray for all the mothers (and fathers) out there raising children on their own. Bring these people to our minds, Father, and help us to discern how we can be of help to them, how we can show them Your love in practical ways. Most of all God let them feel loved, accepted and not condemned for we know there is no condemnation in You. Help us all to extend a helping and supportive hand to those families in our midst who are hurting and struggling to keep it all together, especially during these trying economic times. Be with them Lord and build them up. Raise us up to help in any way You desire. In Jesus holy name, Amen.


  1. Kelwynne says:

    There is someone we have asked to pray about heading up the Divorce Care Ministry under our ministry. I have not been able to talk to him since then but that has been on my heart too.

  2. He And Me + 3 says:

    I know so many single moms, it is sad…I don’t know how they do it.
    I agree with your post 100%. I want to be willing to help whenever needed.

  3. MoodyMommy says:

    That was such a great post!! My mother was a single mother of my sister and I…I watched her struggle for so many years… This year when I bought school supplies, I called and thanked her…I really do not know how she did it!!

  4. Tiffany says:

    Thanks for the reminder!

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