Bringing Sexy Back

I am so excited to participate in this blog party, celebrating an awesome book by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Honey I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight. So, read on about my “issues” in this area, that Sheila addresses in her book and learn how to win some great prizes. Oh, yes and I will give you the secret word for this stop as well!
I recently had my annual female exam (I know- it’s my favorite appointment as well- NOT!). But, I am fortunate to go to a female doctor that I feel comfortable discussing issues with. This year I went with the intent **gasp** to discuss my sex life with her. The issues I am having in this area were important enough to my marriage for me to overlook any discomfort and embarassment in mentioning the topic.
And, I came away really glad that we discussed it. As my regular readers know, I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in January of 2008 and in the last year my health and my body have taken some serious hits with the illness and complications. My sex drive has become a casualty as well. While I was rarely chomping at the bit, I did desire my husband and enjoyed most (if he read this I would say all LOL) of our intimate time together.
Well, in the last year my sex drive went from a slow purr to a claws out get away from me screeching halt. The doctor explained what I already knew- that at least four of the medications I am on list decreased libido as a common side effect, that MS can affect sex drive in and of itself and living with chronic pain and fatigue doesn’t leave you feeling like a sexy mama.
While I was hoping there was a cream or a pill, she told me the answer to finding my libido again wasn’t going to be that easy but it was possible. The neurotransmitters in a woman’s brain that are primarily responsible for sex drive have to be geared up before the rest of the body responds. In men, the sexual response is much more physical- that’s why Viagra focuses on increased blood flow to certain areas.
So, you will never guess what my doctor ordered? ROMANCE, ladies. Yes, good ole fashioned romance. Just like Sheila talks about in her book, sex for women is often a “head thing”. Since my doctor can’t change the meds I’m on or any of the other variables she encouraged me to talk to my hubby. We are going to make more of a concerted effort to bring back the romance that has taken a back seat in our relationship with all the other things going on in the past year. And, I am going to pray for God to renew my mind concerning my body image. To allow me to see myself as the attractive woman my husband still sees me as (really, I think we could all grow beards and they would still find us attractive). To look past the bruises from my injections, the muscle tone I’ve lost in certain places, the weakness, the illness and see the woman that I still am. And, she’s a woman that’s gonna get her sexy back!

– – – – – – –Okay now for the fun stuff!
The secret word for this site is- like and your next stop is Mother Inferior’s blog.
Go to the five blogs on this particular tour, and collect all five words. Then go here:
and enter the message and your email. One winner will be drawn and announced on Sheila’s blog, To Love, Honor and Vacuum at 10:00 p.m.


  1. He And Me + 3 says:

    Wonderful post. It is so amazing how different men and women do view sex…Thanks for sharing.

  2. That is great! God can and will help you in that area in your marriage!

    And ditto what Mimi wrote!!


  3. says:

    Cool post 🙂

  4. Laurie Ann says:

    I’m glad you were able to talk honestly and openly about this with your doc and with us. Medication and illness can definitely put sexy on da back burner. Have fun bringing sexy back! You go, girl!!!! And please know, in all seriousness, I am praying for you as you and your husband work in this area.

  5. mommaof4wife2r says:

    my little brain can’t handle that much! but i love the post!!! great words…thanks for sharing!

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