Wifey Wednesday- How to Awaken Love…

I am really excited and honored to participate in this meme, sponsored by Sheila at To Love, Honor and Vacuum. If you have never visited her blog I encourage you to do so for a refreshing look at living everyday life from a biblical perspective. You can visit her blog here and be sure to join in the Wifey Wednesday fun!

Today’s topic is how to awaken love. Now, come on gals, admit it. At one time or another (or most of the time) we have all lost that lovin’ feelin’ as the old song says. It is bound to happen, particularly when the demands of life leave you tired, cranky and irritable (or is it hormones that leave us feeling that way?).

I didn’t have a healthy view of sex when I got married. I was sexually abused as a child and that left me hesitant to let myself be emotionally vulnerable. At the same time, it left me caring little about myself and my body so I had many sexual partners before getting married (and I was only 18 when we married). This was a difficult issue for my husband when our marriage was young. He took sex much more seriously than I did at that time and knew intuitively that I was holding back emotionally. The more my love for my husband grew the less I wanted to have sex with him. I was afraid of making love.

Those are issues, that through the grace and mercy of God, we worked through together. We have attended marriage conferences, read books together and nurtured that part of our relationship. My husband has been respectful of certain situations or ways of being touched that are uncomfortable for me due to my past and God has freed me from the stronghold of shame regarding my past behavior.

Now we are at another stage in our marriage. Our kids are older and when they go for sleepovers at friend’s houses, etc and we have the house to ourselves, we have a level of comfort with each other that didn’t exist early in our marriage.

That doesn’t mean that we don’t still face challenges in our sex life (which by the way I can’t believe I am blogging about). With multiple sclerosis, there are days I am honestly too tired. My libido is affected by some of the medications I take. I praise God that he has given me a loving and understanding (most of the time) hubby and we are facing these days with prayer.

Awakening love for each other begins with inviting God into your marriage. It is important to not focus on ourself but on our love for our partner and the fact that this is the person God has chosen for us to spend our life with. Pray for your spouse daily. It is difficult to be angry at someone you are praying for and if you ask God to renew your desire for your husband or your energy for sex, God will. He designed sex as a way for couples to connect, it is a divine expression of love. In the confines of marriage, sex is nothing but blessed. So, go and pray for God to awaken your love for your spouse. And please share your feedback and ideas as well.


  1. Amy A.K.A. "The Mrs." says:

    Thanks for sharing your story. I had a similar childhood experience and my hubster has had to support me and pay attention to not do certain things that trigger old memories too.
    Praise God that He helps us overcome our past and step into a new life in Him. 🙂

  2. Thanks for being so transparent!! You Rock!! God ROCKS even more!! Thanks for stopping by! You are welcome anytime! Have a great rest of the week!

  3. Alicia, The Snowflake says:

    Great post my friend! This is definitely an important part of our marriage that we cannot ignore. Thanks for being open and honest enough to share. That is one confession I am not sure I could share on my blog :o) Take care my friend!

  4. He And Me + 3 says:

    Wonderful post. Thank you for sharing with us. what a wonderful idea…I may go check it out. It is so important to be the wife God intended us to be.

  5. Tiaras & Tantrums says:

    beautifully said!

  6. Wow, I give you credit for being so open and honest. But, I can imagine how many women you will minister to because of it!

    I’m going to check out her website!!

  7. Thanks for participating in Wifey Wednesday and linking back to me!

    I think your attitude is great. And it’s so wonderful to see you admit that it was a struggle for you. Why don’t we women talk about that more? For many of us sex is a struggle. We’re tired, even if we don’t have health issues. We have baggage from our past. It isn’t easy.

    But that doesn’t mean it has to be difficult for the rest of our lives. It’s all in our attitude, and I hope some of my suggestions at the original post help, and that your encouragement and honesty blesses others!

    Visit To Love, Honor and Vacuum today!

  8. thank you for being so honest!

  9. Kelly Deneen says:

    So good to hear that things are going well for the two of you and that good changes can happen in a couples’ sex life. Thank you for sharing!

  10. Love your post… I just got done reading Song of Solomon… now there’s a way to think about sex a little differently. I was totally blushing! Seriously though, it sure made me want my hubby to come home for lunch! God is good!

  11. A marriage is something that you need to continually work at. It need attention too. I am working again, with my hubby, at making our marriage, each other and sex higher on the priority list. I don’t ever want it to get lost.

  12. Your honesty is so refreshing. thank you so much for sharing such a private aspect of your life.

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