Bench Warming

Well, Jared was a starter in the game last night and his team won their first game! 22-18, he scored 6 points. I am a proud mama. But, at the same time, it was bittersweet. I realized that this is not rec league anymore. When the coach told us at Parent night that kids were not guaranteed play time, he apparently meant it. There were several guys who warmed the bench the entire game.
I felt bad for them and for their parents. I would be irritated if I had come to the game (after bringing my kid to practice six days a week) and they don’t even get off the bench. And I felt that it might be demoralizing for the kids. I hated it.
But, my wise hubby reminded me that everyone was aware of the policy before the season started. Those kids tried out anyway and it is only the first game. They will probably get to play at some point. And, he also reminded me that, as hard as it is to watch, our boys are growing up and this type of situation is a pretty good illustration of what real life is going to be like. You don’t always get to be in the spotlight and you have to be thankful you even made the team. Your skills are not always going to be appreciated or even required. There are others bigger and smarter and more athletic, etc. Life requires a certain amount of competitiveness. Well, he’s right. But, it’s hard to watch kids learn those lessons in person!


  1. Named Alicia says:

    Yeah Jared! That’s great!

    I understand about the life’s lessons. Your husband is so right. But yes as a mama with a tender mama heart, it is difficult to watch.

    Take care my friend!
    Have a great Tuesday!

  2. Named Alicia says:

    BTW, I am giving you an award on my blog. I hope you get a chance to come check it out!

  3. player n official always come and go, but real supporter always stand up and proud for the tim, in every time, days and forever

  4. He And Me + 3 says:

    Yeah to your son…I would be so proud too! Awesome. Those kids will get their time to shine, it may not be this season, but they are on the team for one reason or another.

  5. Yea for Jared! That is great.

    I can totally relate to your feelings about the bench sitters. I feel the same way. I coached T-ball when my daughter was in preschool and I was the worst coach ever. I just wanted everyone to have fun which wasn’t a popular attitude with the other coaches. Luckily, they don’t keep score or my team would have been severely beaten.

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